Thursday, 26 July 2012

Pop: Diane Abbott - Rich Little Black Girl

I used to think that David Cameron was the sexist one in the government, until I watched prime minister’s questions a few times and realised that they are all just as bad as each other. Most people would read that and think that I’m talking about them not doing enough for women, but in fact my grievance is the other way round. This country gives special treatment to women, because women consistently fight to be better than men rather than equal and it is one of my main problems with England. One of the main things that makes me ashamed of where I come from. I have a few examples of what I am talking about. 

Yvette Cooper at the Labour party conference on the 28th September 2011: ‘We need to prevent the stalking and harassing of women which makes women not feel safe in their homes.’

Last time I checked, women could attack and rape men too. Well, unless you visit the website of the UK’s leading rape organisation ‘Rape Crisis’, then you’d be told that men are evil monsters and women are saints. We need to prevent the stalking and harassing of people, which makes them not feel safe in their homes. There was no reason to bring gender into it. But there are a number of women who believe that it is only men who are capable of this, and as shown by this there are high level members of the labour party who are a part of this belief. If the governmental parties were genuinely interested in equality then the leading rape organisation wouldn’t be allowed to be feminist. 
David Cameron:  ‘It’s high time runaway dads were stigmatised, and the full force of shame was heaped upon them, they should be looked at like drink-drivers. They need the message rammed home to them, from every part  of our culture, that what  they’re doing is wrong – that leaving single mothers, who do a  heroic job against all odds, to fend for themselves simply isn’t acceptable.’

Contrary to popular belief, there are some wonderful fathers out there who have been abandoned by the mothers of their children. There are women who have children and refuse to let the father see the child. There are women who have children and have no idea who the father is. But these situations never get mentioned, if a child doesn’t have a father it must be because the father ran off. 

And since when did single mothers do a heroic job? If they chose to have a child, it isn’t heroic to be looking after it. They should be shamed if they aren’t looking after their child, father or not. Not only that, but there is a large proportion of women in our society who have children just for a council house or because of the law of averages (if you have sex with that many different men you’re going to get pregnant eventually).

Maybe before David Cameron makes comments about the ‘heroic single mothers’ he should visit a council estate outside of his little protective southern bubble. 

Oh wait, he’s allergic to coming further north than Birmingham. 

David Cameron:  ‘When fathers aren’t there for their kids, those children are more likely to live in poverty, fail at school, end up in prison and be unemployed later in life.’

Now we’re blaming all social problems on men, and giving lay-abouts with no dad an excuse, I hope if you have a child you don’t die early, you’ll get lumped in with that. It is all part of the thread that runs through society of blaming everybody else apart from ourselves. We don’t want to take responsibility for our own failures and so we pick easy scapegoats. When a person starts to fail in life they are the only ones who are at fault, there are plenty of people who don’t have fathers or who don’t have very good ones and they get through life perfectly fine. Not only that but we can’t be sure that the people who fail don’t have a different excuse for it, their mother was drunk all the time or they had bad friends or they were in a bad area. The only reason to automatically blame men is because there is some deep rooted sexism that needs removing. No group of people should have such a generalised statement thrown at them.

It is a disgrace that David Cameron is treating men like this, with no thought for the other reasons that a man might not be there for his child. It is a disgrace that there are policies for ‘women’ and not for men. But when people like me try to complain we are either ignored or thrown in with the political correctness brigade and then ignored. I wouldn’t care about any of this if it wasn’t for the hypocrisy of it, I think we should be able to segregate as much as we like if it’s relevant. The problem and the reason I complain constantly is that only women and other ‘minorities’ are allowed to get away with it and it seems against the point of what I view equality to be.

There is another side to this, for the women who think that the victimisation of men is a good idea. Think what it makes you look like. When David Cameron says that he’s helping women by providing more nurseries, you should be getting annoyed that he is making the assumption that all you want to do is have children. You should be getting annoyed that he is presuming the only reason you are a single mother is because you’re a poor little victim abandoned by the big strong men. 

The sexist policies of the government might seem good to you now, but they are just as belittling to women as they are offensive to men and at some point that is going to bite everybody in the arse.

As a final note for this blog post, I would like to mention something that I’m sure a lot of people don’t know. The three main political parties have groups or policies specifically set up to segregate against white people and men. I made complaints about this to all three parties, the labour party gave me the most in-depth response. I enquired about their women’s conference, which they hold every year and whether there was an equivalent for men.

Thank you for your email about the Labour Women's Conference, one of a series events hosted by the Labour Party throughout the year.This event that is very well attended by our women members, and it grows every year. You will be aware of the chronic under-representation of women at every level of public life - the Women's Conference came about as one of many ways that we are trying to redress this imbalance. It is an opportunity for our women members to come together and discuss ways to tackle women's under-representation, but also a place where our women members can discuss policy and debate with each other as to the best way that Labour can develop policies that will make life better for women. We will continue to hold this event as long as there is a need for it, and as long as our women members wish to attend, indeed it came about after calls from our membership to hold it. Very happy to discuss this further should you wish, my contact details are below.

Because she invited me to respond, I did.

You made a comment in your last email that women are under-represented at every level of public life. What about with breast cancer campaigns throughout the country that directly target women despite the fact that men can get the disease too and in fact have a worse prognosis? In this situation they are under-represented as are they when it comes to family life and parenting. There are many single fathers in the country who are completely ignored and alienated by groups like mothers and toddlers who don't expect a man to appear in their midst. I have a family member who works in a playgroup with an all female staff that don't like it when fathers come in on the rota and in fact discourage it because of the overall feminine atmosphere. Watching the adverts on the TV for a few minutes where I'd say about 90% of parents are mothers corroborates this. With regards to the breast cancer, there are even women specific runs in this country that men who have breast cancer, or who have lost family members to breast cancer, are not allowed to participate in. Both parenting and breast cancer are areas of public life where men are under-represented and yet I haven't seen anything to suggest that your party is helping them. 

There are more of course, domestic violence help is still heavily steered in the aid of women as is rape. You only have to check out Rape Crisis UK which is one of the leading rape organisations in the country and proudly feminist to know that men who are raped are heavily deterred from getting help. Boys statistically do worse in education and there are less male primary school teachers in the country.

Having a 'woman's conference' simply serves to alienate men and show that women can't get into politics without having their hands held, by only allowing one gender to participate in an event like that you are fuelling the imbalances that you mentioned because it is directly sexist. By 'trying to make life better for women' you discriminate against men, surely in 2012 we should be trying to make life better for everyone rather than singling people out and perpetuating feminist views of women superiority. Has it not been considered at all that maybe there aren't as many women who want to be in politics? Maybe members of the party have called for a woman's conference but the last time I checked positive discrimination is still considered a bad thing in this country.

Also my original question, whether there is a male equivalent, has gone unanswered. As I have already pointed out there are parts of the society heavily sexist towards men and surely in these cases the imbalance needs to be redressed.

Her reply:

When I said public life, I referred to elected office/company boards/public appointments. Obviously we are making great gains, but it was only a few years ago that there were more MPs called John than women MPs in the House of Commons!

You make some interesting points and I hope that you will pass them on to the relevant organisations.

I think we are just going to have to agree to disagree on the issue of whether there is a need for events such as a women's conference. They came into being because our women members got together and organised one, but obviously they don't appeal to all of our women members - which is absolutely fine, - they are but one of hundreds of events the Labour Party hosts every year.

As yet, there is no conference for male members, as I don't believe any male members have got together and organised one yet. If this happens I will be sure to let you know.

I decided at this point that I’d won the battle and let her return to her sexist feminist bubble without further harassment.

If society holds the view that equality means allowing everybody to be a part of everything, then they should be consistent. There is no reason that women need to have their own conference while men aren’t given the same courtesy. There is no reason that the liberal democrats should section everybody up into their own little groups but leave men and white people and straight people out of it. We are supposed to be past putting people into little boxes and preventing them from having the same chances, we are supposed to be past such blatant segregation but it is perpetuated by some women and certain people with certain skin colours who believe they deserve special treatment. It is a lot rarer that you hear a man talk about gender, or a white person refer to a person as black. But Diane Abbott the labour politician is obsessed with referring to anyone white by their skin colour. David Cameron wouldn’t dare call her a posh little black girl but she calls him a posh little white boy as if it’s his name.

This attitude is just as damaging for those being ‘helped’ as those who are being left out in the cold. We can’t all be a big happy integrated society when we put the black men in one corner and the white women in another. It isn’t democracy when the parties are trying to force us into voting for those people who are seen as disadvantaged, we should be given the chance to vote for the best possible people. If those people are all men or all white then maybe the other groups of people, rather than being helped, should wonder why their people are less able. It has nothing to do with their skin colour or their gender and it isn’t racist or sexist. There are other factors affecting their ability irrelevant to their meaningless physical characteristics.  

And that isn’t everyone else’s fault, it’s their own.

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